The Past Snuck Up On Me
Another Sunday Evening. I am glad we all made it here together. Sundays can be very hectic days at my house. To top it off, it is 8pm and 107°F outside. My poor A/C is having trouble keeping up. I wrote a heavy post yesterday. A post that wasn't as lightening as I had hoped it would be. So, I think I'll ponder over something a bit lighter tonight.
Last night, I attended a wedding reception. It was well done and a very happy place to visit. Only, I wasn't feeling all that sociable. I probably wouldn't have even gone except my mom
wanted someone to go with. So I prettied myself up and went along.
At the reception the room was full of old friends. I told my mom it was like stepping into my past. People I hadn't seen in a decade were there. I did a bit of small talk but we didn't stay very long.
My thoughts on the night have been interesting. I had a hard time really reconnecting with those I spoke with. I wasn't sure what to ask etc. After we got past talking about our kids there was this little awkward pause moment. I know my mood played into it but I really wish I had been able to do more to reconnect.
What kind of friend are you to those you meet a decade later? Even if you were pretty good friends way back when. Is it tough for you to immediately reconnect as it was for me?
I have made a decision to make a few phone calls and get some email addresses of a couple of the friends. I do want to make an effort, even if I was unable last night. At least with the written word nobody is the wiser about those awkward pauses.
Last night, I attended a wedding reception. It was well done and a very happy place to visit. Only, I wasn't feeling all that sociable. I probably wouldn't have even gone except my mom
wanted someone to go with. So I prettied myself up and went along.
At the reception the room was full of old friends. I told my mom it was like stepping into my past. People I hadn't seen in a decade were there. I did a bit of small talk but we didn't stay very long.
My thoughts on the night have been interesting. I had a hard time really reconnecting with those I spoke with. I wasn't sure what to ask etc. After we got past talking about our kids there was this little awkward pause moment. I know my mood played into it but I really wish I had been able to do more to reconnect.
What kind of friend are you to those you meet a decade later? Even if you were pretty good friends way back when. Is it tough for you to immediately reconnect as it was for me?
I have made a decision to make a few phone calls and get some email addresses of a couple of the friends. I do want to make an effort, even if I was unable last night. At least with the written word nobody is the wiser about those awkward pauses.
5 Comments:
do you really WANT to reconnect? or just feel like you should?
just wondering. i have no desire at all to reconnect with my past, no that i ever bump into it, as you did. if they're relationships that are worth your energy, go for it!
I have a lousy track record for keeping up with old friends - even those who were really close at one time. I have a few that I keep in touch with, and one or two that I've reconnected with, but I'm mostly a "live in the moment" kinda gal - enjoying the friendships I have now and not burning too much energy on reviving past ones.
I find that these things can't be forced. The ones that are right, come back around and feel...comfortable.
Sometimes it is hard to reconnect. Other times you are able to just take up where you left off ... I have a lot of friends like that. And then there are others with which it just doesn't happen.
I just got an e-mail from a friend from elementary school who moved away in 6th grade. I've enjoyed reconnecting, but it has also brought back memories of times in my life that I'd rather not think about. She's asking about my 20-year high school reunion (next year) and whether I'm going to attend. I think not.
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